Whether you’re young or old, dating or married, and of any culture, couples can benefit from the book, Young, Black & Married: How to Snuggle Through the Struggle. Jared and Mesi James from Atlanta, Georgia, have authored this book about how to survive a relationship, despite the challenges of daily life. It’s possible to return to that first few months of wedded bliss. But first, you must read the book!
How to Snuggle Through the Struggle contains marriage tips that are presented in a numbered rule format. But don’t worry, it’s not a lot of homework reading this book. I found it enjoyable and easy to read. It has some traditional advice, such as don’t eye anyone of the opposite sex—I’m in Canada, so that would be applicable to anyone you find attractive, male or female. You can read this book and make the rules applicable to your situation.
There are also many rules you may have never considered for your relationship. The book also contains a his and hers section, offering specific advice to keep women happy, and advice to keep men happy.
Jared and Mesi James have written that a lot of the problems in a relationship are due to miscommunication. No one intentionally jeopardizes their relationship. It’s time to calm down, begin communicating, and not take it personally.
Creating incentives for positive reinforcement is one tip. Not only can it be fun creating coupons for lap dances and massages, but it’ll be fun to hand them out too! Perhaps this can be integrated into date night, which they also recommend having one night per week.
I also appreciated this tidbit: Rule #8: Listen to comprehend, not to respond. Too often partners don’t wait for the other one to finish talking before hopping in. Not only is this disrespectful, but it’s also annoying to your partner. Ensure that they know you’re listening.
I won’t go on about all of the rules in the book, as you’ll have to read for yourself.
You can find Young, Black & Married: How to Snuggle Through the Struggle on most popular publisher websites. You can connect with Jared and Mesi James on Facebook here.